Ice Cream Socials

The days of loose girls, free love, and let it all hang out is on the way out. The free ride for guys enjoying sex from “liberated” girls is on the way out. Political and societal liberation never translated to sexual liberation. It never would. Sex drives it all…boys and girls want to get together, on their own rules which are driven by biological imperatives. The societal change will take decades to occur, as did the present state of affairs. But the times they are a changing, and the pendulum is swinging as always. The days of group dating and special friends “with privileges” are on the wane. Boys and girls have different objectives, and that has never changed. How they got there, and how they tolerated the process during their times, has changed. They are and have been part of how American society survives, and goes forward.

One idea that succeeds is that the demographics decide in the end. Birth rates of sub-elements of society is the usual basis of this idea, which is numerically correct for these days. Somehow I believe that the future American experience will lower sex out of wedlock, and birth rates out of wedlock, that will naturally change the course of our culture for all elements. To follow on, few expect boys and girls to change their behavior; it will be how we change our adult behavior and impose ourselves on their opportunities to have sex. Call it two faced, call it censorship, call it unfair; most parents call it supervision for our kids benefit, and society’s benefits along the way. Even sexually transmitted diseases and their consequences should drop in a way that allows more married couples to have kids.

Society, in our case American society, has an interest in itself. In the case of sex, imposing our standards usually applies to girls being in charge. It does work both ways, but generally we are most rigid with girls. Since mothers and fathers are not stupid, this often means both training, and rigid supervision and rules since this will benefit their daughters, and sons, in the end.

Imposing our standards is both cheap talk, and hard to do given today’s times. But then we are talking about the future, also. In both cases the idea of “shame” needs refurbishment, as well as ideas of limiting the government paying for abortions or child support. If mom and dad have to pay in the latter two cases, the social justice and retribution will far exceed anything well intentioned social scientists can legislate. We do have the means to begin to change course, if we choose to do so. Lest this seems another well intentioned idea, I can report I am a father of both girls and boys, and at least one has bred, albeit married first.

And then there are the alternatives that demand work on the part of parents imposing both standards and non-sex alternatives on boys and girls. Here moms and dads are smarter than any one writing an article such as this. Just don’t forget Ice Cream Socials.