What do you do now parent?

When a 15 year old son tells you the father recently that two girls are chasing him at school and what should he do, well, what should he do? My answer was to be selfish, since he wants to be a military pilot. And it takes years of hard work and school to even compete.

When my now 12 year old daughter, then 10 years of age, tells me that being skinny and dressing sexy is important to attracting boys, what does a father do. My answer was to be selfish, and be one self. This advice passed as quick as the wind. I did answer, after all.

In both of the aforementioned cases, the area is Atlanta.

I, as a father, read a recent internet article that suggested the term “date” was no longer a verb for most girls that are under 30 years of age, or there about. Later in the article 4 out of 5 thought bringing back “dating” was a good idea. The main idea was to date, and if you find him OK, then think about marriage. Later sex comes in, as in marriage and fun, and family. The article went on to report what is going on today about how boys and girls end up getting together and eventually marrying, and it is sad from the girls point of view in the article. Most young people want to have children, and free sex has costs that make so many unable to conceive. Mostly it is on the girl side. And let me add, as a guy, that we have a reputation too, and being a slut (guy side) has to be reinforced by avoiding girl sluts, at least in the old days.

The parents response is obvious to this posting parent and former Marine. Information, information, and talk. Mostly it most be about standards, for both boys and girls. Number one is what is your objective, as in be a military pilot, or be a mother at 18? Number two is restraint, as in lack of promiscuity. This means keeping your pee pee in your pants and your legs crossed. Number three is restoring shame to living in sin, and having children out of wedlock. These are not new ideas. This father suggests they are “new world” ideas.